I can’t deal now because I feel like I put so much more in than he does, and when I mention it, he totally disregards me and I end up apologizing. Also, he gets frustrated when I apologize, it’s just an endless cycle
I can’t even deal because my grandmother passed away monday and he hasn’t given me any slack. If I get upset, he tells me to calm down. I know it’s silly to be upset over the things I do, but just let it be, I don’t know how to grieve.
I clean up our room, do his laundry, and dishes. I make him coffee every morning and dinner every night… I take care of him as best as I can; all my friends tell me I spoil him and he doesn’t appreciate what I do for him, and I do feel that way some times, but when I bring it up to talk about, he always makes me feel like I’m in the wrong for complaining. I don’t know what to do, he doesn’t take me seriously. Every time I try, it ends up going in the complete wrong direction.
Like today, I just finished my period, so I came to ‘bother’ him, but he was sleeping and got angry because I was tickling him. Which is totally fine. But later when I mentioned I hadn’t got off in two days, he scoffed and gave me ‘the look’ Because of last night. Even though last night I got him off, and he promised to do the same, but forgot, hours later I bring it up, and he tries to remedy it, but I didn’t end up getting off. Now today when I mention how hot and bothered I’ve been all day he looks at me and sarcastically said how neglected I am for having a boyfriend how didn’t have sex with me for one day. And understand it’s not that that’s bothering me, It’s the fact I got him off twice and I didn’t get anything back. Also not helping that I’m going home for the weekend and won’t be back till monday.
I mean all I was asking for was an orgasm.
It doesn’t help that I don’t have any pot to keep me calm, and I don’t want to pop pills. The stress is getting to me. I don’t like having to tiptoe and having to constantly be reassured, and that’s exactly what I have become, Why do I always do this? I have been smoking a lot less, make 2gs last 8 days, which is very good for me. It has not been good for my anxiety, and I need to let my fingers heal. I try to distract myself with M, but it doesn’t always work.
I have to figure out how to cope, and if this is what I want. I can’t keep going on without communication, at first, I honestly thought it was going to get better, M always told me talking helps. Now it seems he’s got fed up with me trying to talk. I know it’s just him being a boy, like how I’ll tell him I miss him because I spent all day in class and he’s on the computer, and he’ll just laugh and tell me he’s right here. It’s stupid stuff like that that makes me upset.
Also, he’s very passive-aggressive about my eating, but I don’t know what to do because I feel like I’m doing well, very well considering the circumstances. I just don’t know how to get it across to him that I need to feel appreciated, Important to him. The more he ignores the things I do, the more I go out of my way for him, hoping he’ll notice some of the stuff I do for him. I know it’ll get me nowhere, but that’s all I know how to do.